Prince Harry privately asked his uncle Earl Spencer whether his explosive memoir about Princess Diana contained anything that would embarrass him — a revelation that has thrown fresh light on just how precarious the Duke of Sussex's position has become as he attempts to rebuild his fractured relationship with King Charles.

The detail emerged this week as Earl Spencer confirmed he personally reassured Harry before the release of Swan Song: Diana, My Sister, telling him there was nothing to worry about. But with the Palace now furious, and sources warning the memoir could derail Harry's long-sought reconciliation with his father, that private conversation is suddenly looking very significant indeed.

The Question Harry Needed Answered

Earl Spencer was candid about the exchange when speaking publicly about his nephew's involvement — or lack of it — in the book. He stated clearly that nobody outside of his wife knew about the memoir in advance, and that Harry was not involved in any way.

"Harry was sort of like 'Is there anything in there that would be embarrassing to me?' I said 'absolutely not'. I'm very specific about people's privacy."

The memoir itself makes a number of incendiary allegations about the Royal Family, including the claim that King Charles sounded "giddily elated" when Earl Spencer spoke to him following Princess Diana's death in 1997. The book also alleges that Charles said "we'll forget her soon enough" in the immediate aftermath of her passing — a claim the Palace pushed back on sharply, releasing a statement that read: "Fraternal grief can cloud reason, affect judgment and colour memory."

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Royal sources have confirmed that King Charles's close aides had attempted to intervene before the statement was issued, managing only to soften its tone rather than prevent its release entirely — a sign of just how seriously the Palace is taking the matter.

Harry Caught in the Crossfire

The timing could not be more difficult for Harry. According to insiders, the duke had been quietly making progress in his efforts to restore his relationship with his father before the memoir landed and upended everything.

"It has been very self-defeating for Harry as he was on a mission to be back in his father's good graces and he was actually making progress. But now that's all come grinding to a halt."

A source told Woman's Day that the King and his advisors are now questioning how trustworthy Harry can be if he refuses to publicly distance himself from an uncle they believe is "trying to sabotage the monarchy". The source added bluntly: "His uncle is going after the King with a vengeance. If he doesn't distance himself, the only conclusion is that he's co-signing this attack on his own father."

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Yet for all the pressure bearing down on him, Harry is not expected to break ranks with the Spencer family. Those close to him say he will not abandon his uncle or the wider Spencer circle — they stood by him, the argument goes, when very few others did.

A Family History That Never Fully Healed

The memoir's allegations have also prompted renewed discussion about the early years of Diana and Charles's marriage — and the emotional atmosphere into which Harry was born. Royal author Ingrid Seward, writing in her biography Catherine & Diana, claims that Princess Diana knew she was expecting a boy before Harry's birth in 1984 but chose not to tell Charles.

"She knew he longed for a daughter, and her extreme vulnerability made her keep this piece of intimate information from him," Seward writes. Diana later told royal biographer Andrew Morton that the six weeks before Harry's birth were among the closest she and Charles had ever been — but that the arrival of another son marked the moment their marriage began to unravel. "As suddenly as Harry was born, it just went bang, our marriage," she said in recordings made for Morton's book.

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Harry himself has previously described a remark his father apparently made about it being "wonderful" that Diana had given him "an heir and a spare" — a phrase that, of course, later became the title of Harry's own memoir.

The Next Generation Caught Between Two Worlds

All of this family history casts a long shadow over the present. Harry and Meghan Markle returned to Britain with their children, Prince Archie and Princess Lilibet, in August, physically bringing the Sussex family closer to the rest of the Royal Family for the first time since they relocated to California following their step back from royal duties in 2020.

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But proximity has not meant warmth. Prince William and his wife Kate Middleton did not reach out to the couple on their return, and despite a meeting between Harry and King Charles at Highgrove during a five-day UK visit in July, the royal cousins — Archie, Lilibet, Prince George, Princess Charlotte and Prince Louis — are reported to have not seen one another during that trip. Some reports have suggested the children have likely never met.

For Harry, who has spoken repeatedly about wanting his children to know their family, that reality may be the sharpest consequence of a rift that, for now at least, shows little sign of healing.